Australian tells how Russian changed her life
I am often asked relatives and friends: "What's it like to live in Russia?" I know that they expect the usual answers, like "Russia is a very big" or "Russia is very cold." However, I think that life in Russia is a delightful, bright and full of surprises. All you need to - it's a lot of patience.
Tell me what you think, and think, what you say
Here in Australia, and elsewhere, the question "How are you?" Implies the only suitable response: "Well, thank you." However, ask a question Russian, and soon you will find that they have entered into an unexpected debate. An elderly woman in the subway told me about their problems with the doctor in every excruciating detail. My teacher taught me in their own family difficulties, and the bus driver strongly criticized Moscow's pipeline network. Simple greeting often leads to a long and frank conversation.
Russian general's face and feel extreme aversion to hypocrisy and pretense. They will always talk to you from my heart, and very true. You will know what they are thinking, whether it's good or bad.
A friend once told me, with a unique Russian honesty: "Now, I love you, but when we met, you did not like it right away, you seemed so mean and petty!" My first reaction was to move into position - she could talk things right in the face! But now I realize how good it is - tell someone directly what you think about it really. It frees the soul.
The ability to tolerate and adapt - everyday needs
When I entered his room in the dormitory, I immediately noticed the wobbly planks in the floor, broken watering can in the shower, shabby walls and ceiling of reinforced adhesive tape. Over the next few months, I began to see it everywhere: on the broken windshields, stairs, doors and furniture. All that is required repairs have been "fixed", you guessed it, with the help of adhesive tape. Whenever my floorboards behind again, I complained: "Why can not repair the floor properly ?!" while trying to hammer them back.
At my friend Ivan were on the subject's cognitive words that have allowed me to understand the attitude of Russian ingenuity to "make it broken and repaired all his life." Now I know that there is no problem that can not be solved by means of adhesive tape, creativity and patience. My Russian friends have taught me that if it is not re-enlisted a problem, it can wait until it is not necessary to worry about it especially.
This patient approach has become part of my daily life. In Russia, the events are always unpredictable. Distances are huge, you can delay the weather turns are a complete mess and a terrible bureaucratic machine spins at its own rate, without attaching any importance to your deadlines. There is much that is beyond your control, and life will be much easier if you learn to accept it.
Little things can bring great joy to
We in the West are often obsessed with the idea of fun, but it's not the same thing as to feel really relaxed. Before coming to Russia, I often had a hard time, and I always wondered if I try enough, and if I can be more productive use of their time.
In Russia, relaxation - is a daily practice that is actively cultivated, whether we are talking about the rest of the country or of a little late to a meeting because you just do not want to rush. This is especially important in a city like Moscow, where life is hard and full of stress. Despite the fast pace, the Muscovites have taught me, in particular, what is needed to appreciate the small moments of pleasure, when they happen, because it makes life so much happier. I learned that the concept of time in Russia is flexible: your friends can be late, your mail can not reach, and even your money or documents can not arrive at a time when you expect them. However, this is mainly due to the fact that the Russian tend to do when they see fit. This is something like the resistance against the surrounding on all sides by stress or anxiety due to tight deadlines and very orderly life.
In Australia, there is a prejudiced stereotype of the Russian: it is believed that they are cold and without a sense of humor. In truth, the Russian, and in fact not often smile in public, but in the initial restraint against strangers, after once it passes, open a surprisingly cheerful, open-minded and curious people. There are some things that I do are unlikely to ever be able to understand (well, why can not I sit at the corner table?), But this incomprehensibility - just one more reason why I love Russia.