Some vital lessons that we must learn to thirty years
Life as we know - the pros. In the sense that it is a very patient teacher, who did not seem to get tired of teaching us, regardless of our age. We are confident that all of us, dear readers, have something to say on this subject - to talk about the lessons that are presented to you a life, even if they are not very pleasant.
So we decided to offer you to get acquainted with what the lessons learned to the age of thirty users of social network Reddit.
"I remember that when I was in high school, I thought I'd just accidentally got on this planet, and often thought about that with me that something is wrong, that I am absolutely not like normal people . I was afraid of what would always be "weird girl with the penultimate party." But to his thirty, I realized that my uniqueness and otherness - is a virtue. We are all different, and this is a guarantee of success of each of us. For it is thanks to the fact that we are unique, we are able to create something new, do something that no one else but us can not and can not. My main was a lesson in self-acceptance. I understand - you need to love yourself, and not be horrified by their being different. It should be used for the benefit of themselves, and then the "strangeness" become a force! ".
"Thank you for your difficulties,"
"At one time it seemed to me that life" drove me into a corner, "and was so bleak that I always thought how unfair everything is arranged. Why did my share fell so much trouble? Why do others live easily, and everything is given to me so hard? I wanted to wake up one morning, suddenly see that all my problems disappeared, and the sun shone on me luck. But as long as I wanted to find a pitcher with a magic genie or at least little flowers-semitsvetik that without my participation will solve all my problems, my troubles were growing like a snowball. I'm thirty now, and I know that there are circumstances and difficulties that are worth to be grateful. Happiness does not fall from the sky on you. To bring order to your life, you just need to (although it is certainly not easy) to see their problems in the eye and begin to deal with them. If not immediately, but it will be resolved "in the end everything.
"The lesson I learned with great difficulty. No one should be forced to keep his side. It so happens that those who need me, like the air, completely indifferent to you. And then in any case it is impossible to cling to this "oxygen source" and try to hold him back. All the same, it did not work, even if it is out of pity even for some time will be next. It's like chopping the dog's tail centimeter. Too much unnecessary pain will have to experience. "
"Respect their boundaries"
"To learn to leave himself no less important than to be able to let go. Life has taught me not to succumb to manipulation, and for this I am very grateful. I've always been a very educated girl and she could so well to put yourself in the shoes of others, presenting what they feel, when I, for example, do not agree with them, that at some point I realized that I most like, and not at all. I was so comfortable everyone is so dissolved into someone else's life that his I just left. I had to collect my own life bit by bit. And now I know that to be respected, it is necessary, first of all, respect yourself and learn how to build their borders. This does not mean that I have become indifferent to other people's problems, this means that I have learned to value themselves and their lives. "
"Do you want to get the answer, ask the question"
"Do not be afraid to talk about what you do not understand, and what you need. Talk about what is important to you. Remember the simple truth, people can not read your thoughts. Can not all. And if you want an answer, you need to ask a question. If you need help, you need to ask about this. It's so simple, and it is so important. This is necessary to ensure that the relationship was comfortable to close people to understand you, and you, too, did not take offense at them in vain. If you want to in life had fewer problems and conflicts, speak clearly and directly. "
"Nobody owes you"
"When I was twenty, I was sure that my friends will support me in everything, if only because they are" obliged "to do it for me. But life has shown that it is easier to meet with a pink unicorn than wait for the unconditional support from those who, in my opinion, I was a "must". Not all our hopes come true, and tell you a secret, thank God, they did not all come true. And the sooner you accept the truth of "people I do not owe anything", the less frustration you will suffer. The world will not litter your straws, if only because he is not with you in close relationship, and not all people will be configured to your favor. "